Singleness and Dating
Bayou City Fellowship's pastor, Curtis Jones, is on the blog today! He is here to share some invaluable insight and wise counsel on dating as a single mom.
Dating is awkward. It doesn't matter if you are young or old, rich or poor, suburban or urban. Whether it's an old friend, an online match, or a blind leap, it's going to be like dancing blindfolded to two different songs. Add in being a single mom and I imagine it can get complicated fast. As you consider your dating options, here are a few things to remember...
1) God wants to use your singleness. In fact, the Apostle Paul said in 1 Corinthians 7:6 he wished everyone could be single just like him. He believed and the Bible records that singleness provides a freedom to serve Jesus that does not exist in marriage. Don't view your current season as a curse. Look for the opportunities God has brought your way to shine the name of Jesus in your circle of influence.
2) Marriage is not a cure. Since a long season of singleness can be difficult we can easily over-romanticize marriage. We sit and daydream about a future without temptation, stress, or heartache. But marriage does not fix people. It will not fix you or your future spouse. In fact, it will expose any cracks in your character. Marriage is a gift from God and will be deeply enjoyable, but think about a future spouse as a partner and not as a rescue.
3) Be slow to say "hello" and quick to say "goodbye." It's always easier to begin a relationship than it is to end one. However, you are a follower of Jesus and member of God's kingdom. Plus, you are responsible for at least one young life. Keep your standards high, in keeping with the Scripture and the vision you have for your family. When you realize that this man is not a keeper, don't keep him! Be bold and quick to say goodbye and trust that God will continue to sustain you with guidance and joy.
To hear Pastor Curtis' sermon on singleness (which we highly recommend!), CLICK HERE to download the free podcast entitled "Relationships: 1 Corinthians 7:6". (This is compatible with most mobile devices. If you have never listened to or downloaded a podcast before, do not fear! We are here to help you in whatever way we can. Send us an email and we'll act as support.)
We are absolutely wild about each of you, and we so wish we could be sitting across the table from you with both hands wrapped around a coffee/ tea mug talking about how valuable and cherished you are to our Father. We'd love to hear your thoughts on these posts by you posting in the comments, and we'd really love to know how we can be praying for you! Some follow up questions to help you really apply this shared Biblical question to your life are below. You are a treasure!
- Do you believe that marriage is the cure for loneliness?
- Do you think a man is the answer to the heartache and disappointment that you and your child(ren) have experienced?
- When you are alone, what do you think about? Are you comfortable being alone, or are you thinking, "Why hasn't he called/ texted me?!"
The floor is open for conversation in the comments! Listen, sister. We've walked where you are in regards to single parenthood. It can be a heavy and isolating gig. We love you and want to be here to help you walk through this life well for God's glory and for that sweet generation in your home that calls you "Mom".